How to Deal With Bullies Without Being One Yourself

For many decades, psychiatrists and other experts have been studying bullies and discuss why such behaviour remains prevalent in almost every community and school ground around the world.

There are psychological explanations for the abnormal behaviour, but people should also be taught how to handle them without resorting to violence or becoming a bigger bully. We cite two key studies in this article.

1. Be confident

Bullies typically target those who they think they are capable of overpowering. The usual victims are those who tend to stay alone, avoid communication or do not join social activities. It is recommended to be confident by walking straight, looking straight into someone's eye when talking as well as participating in group work. These can forward the idea that you can take care of yourself and ward off bullies effectively.

2. Report to authority

Instead of fighting back, teach students to report the matter to their teacher or principal. Research conducted at the University of London showed that 50% of students do not report that they are being bullied, which results to more abuse and aggressiveness on the part of the offender.

3. Find an alpha buddy

Some people do not have the physical traits or confidence to passively exert a dominant attitude that will prevent bullying. Those who are prone to bullying will be safer if they look for a friend whom bullies are afraid of. The person may be someone older, physically bigger or have a good reputation in campus or at work. Your buddy can help fend off bullies or even help you form a friendly bond with them.

4. Know the rules

Many schools and workplaces have specific guidelines and are quite active in supporting victims of bullying. A study at the University of Colorado in Boulder showed that places that have established policies and interventions to manage and prevent bullying have minimal incidences of the problem. Talk to a counsellor or join group activities pertaining to the subject, so you know how to respond in any situation.

5. Learn self-defense

Join a martial arts program in your school or community and learn the basics on self-defense. Smaller individuals can conveniently subdue aggressors without causing violence. You should always remember that self-defense should be a form of protecting yourself from harm, not a means to initiate the same behaviour you wish to prevent.