You Can Enjoy The World's First Marriage Between A Woman And Herself
She ensured that the marriage partner wouldn't run away from her wedding ceremony of 50 guests. So she got married to herself. Strange as it may sound, she proposed to herself in a park bench on Parliament Hill, North London, last November. She was thrilled that she accepted herself, and finally, Grace Gedler and Grace Gedler walked down the aisle in March.
In college, she had been inspired by Bjork's song "Isobel" she told The Guardian. The lyrics say: "My name's Isobel, married to myself." Her guest list had all her friends as well as her sister. Her parents could not attend, but sent a lot of loving messages and texted her throughout the day. She had got herself a dress, a ring, went through the vows and married in a farmhouse, Devon. She finished the wedding with a kiss on a mirror. She was married by her friend Tiu, who is a celebrant. Standing by her, the friend said that the deal would "set her up for a new phase of life."
She commented that as she had been single for six years, she proceeded to build up a "brilliant relationship with herself," for marrying someone else would be too much work, according to Mirror. For six years she had been single. So she proposed to herself, accepted, and then found that she got along very well with herself. She then decided to get married.
She admitted that she did get a few sarcastic comments falling her way, of people pointing out that she was being narcissistic. "Obviously, if you have just announced you're marrying yourself, it is plainly a statement of self-love, and I was under no illusion how self-indulgent that might appear," she said, according to Mirror. Yet, she admits that she was comfortable with her goals. She had been going through "personal development" using meditation, dance and performance in order to enhance her self-awareness. It also factored a Shakti Tantra programme that concentrated on teaching sexuality, showing how she had to make agreements with herself and others in that. She decided that marrying herself would be that "massively powerful means of making those agreements stick."
Though she now never had any other option apart from hanging on with herself for the rest of her life, she did go through pre-wedding jitters. However, she feels good about herself, that she is not "single anymore." She is glad that she did not make it a kind of "feminist" statement, but only took it to feel empowered.
Grace writes out her entire feelings about herself and her decisions here.